4 days later I tried to plead with him again but I angered him even more. I told him I'm sorry and will try to change my ways but he says people don't change overnight. He said he is moving on with someone else but she's not his girlfriend. He brought up the time when I got a ride with a friend and says he's still not over that. After that he starting saying some real hurtful things like he doesn't have the same feelings for me anymore and the spark isn't there. He's not infatuated with me anymore and I need to let it go. He told me to that I will get stronger and learn from this. He also told me the best way to get over it is to get a %26quot;friend%26quot;. I have mixed feelings because I know some people say things when they are hurt to make themseleves feel good then they let go but in this case I'm not too sure.
Anyways he says that he will always be there for me and still loves me but not romantically. He says he still care and want to be friends because I will always have him. But at the same time he doesn't feel comfortable being around me he says which got me confused because how can you be friends with someone but not be comfortable around them? He said he doesn't want to have sex either because feelings are still there. He made that clear.....at least he tried too.
It took me a little time to heal but I'm moving on. I decided not to call or ever contact him. We work near each other but he is easily avoidable. Well just 7 days later he called out of the blue to see how I'm doing and what I been up to as if nothing happened. I just ended the convo quickly saying that I'm busy because honestly I didn't feel comfortable talking to him. I just thought it was weird.
His close male friends came to talk to me one day and told me as long as I give him space he will come back. He just was angry and said bad things to make him feel good because he is like that when he gets hurt. But I also explained to them that he said he moved on with someone but they said that new becomes old and he may get tired of her. Just give it time, give it about 3 weeks at least and watch how he will change. Just always be nice and friendly and never show that I'm hurt. Always show that I'm happy if he's around. (His friends love me and loved us as a couple which is why they care)
It's hard to let go because we had deep feelings. I'm love him and a little hurt by the things he said but if I was to ever bring him back into my life I will make sure he will not take me for granted. I will make sure things will change and we start off fresh. He will not be in control. But that's IF we get back together.
But the question is do you think he could change his mind and want to get back together? Despite all the things that he said do you think there's still a chance? Like other guys said people say things out of anger but their feelings can change over a period of time. Has anymore ever been through somethings like this but gotten back together? I really need answers from the guys the most but anyone can answer.
Please note: Yes I can move on and forget. I just really want to know if people's feelings can change despite all the things they said in the past. I'm just confused right now and need more advise. Only serious answers please.
Do some people have a change of heart?
hey girl, we have same story actually right now. my x bf broke up with me because he said that he don't love me anymore and just like what you wrote on your questions. for me, boys are just doing some reasons to get out from the relationship when they met other girl. they will just dumped you just like they are throwing garbage. be sure of what you feel and are you really want to be with him again and ready for the things that may come again between the two of you? guys easily fall out of love when they knew someone else. be sure that he really love you and not that strong to let you go again. im telling you this and also for me. hopefully, i can accept my opinion too,hahaha! because i still love my x bf and im begging him back. we both need to pray and pray that we can handle this on the right way so that we will not again. i hope we can do it.
Do some people have a change of heart?
I have been threw this myself and we got back together and girls it doesn't work out it might a few months but it always seems to go back to the way it was. Sorry!
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